It’s not your birthday

We have four kids.  Which means four birthdays, four cakes, four gifts and four family parties.  Okay well I’ve been a little lazy and have our one year old’s with our eleven year old’s and our middle man (who just turned 3) never really had a party.  Until this year- we just went out to dinner can have him a cupcake.  
But me defending my small parties is what this is about.  You seen with our four children, three of them all have their birthdays within a month of each other.  Two in July and one early August. Our other kid (lovebug) has her birthday in April.  She’s our rainbow baby and her brother before her (who was born just a little too early) was due in August.  So I guess you could say my “get lucky” time is normally a Christmas present 😂 

Anyway- she’s 5 now and his year was probably the hardest.  You see at five, she understands it’s not her birthday, she understands she’s not getting any presents.  But that doesn’t make seeing your other three siblings get parties, cake and gifts all with out you any easier.  She hasn’t complained or even cried about it really, she’s been really good about it…. but we see it.  She’s a little bit heartbroken.  Not about not getting presents, but just feeling left out of the crowd.  The odd man out of you will. 

So what do we do? Well I’m not just going to buy her presents, it’s not her birthday and as a family of six, each kids gets one (or two if it’s small) birthday gifts. Just buying her a present will tell the other kids- hey do we get one in April??  We don’t feed into it either, we don’t want her to feel worse- she’s five! She’s still learning how to deal with all those emotions and she’s a cryer- like hard core- I’m not setting off that bomb. No way!  

So this year- being the first with all theee having birthdays- I made her my helper… she helped pick out presents, and when I went to the store for birthday stuff, I took her with me.  I let her hold the list and she handed to receipt to the man at Sams.  And when it came time to celebrate- she felt kind of like us, like the inside man- and she got excited when they would wake up and get their gift and normally a balloon 🤦🏻‍♀️(side note- I literally do not life balloons but kids being kids, they love them, so when it’s bday time, I give in and my husband goes nuts ) see example A: 🙄

Anyway- we just finished out last birthday for this year, and I can finally say- it was great!  This year we celebrated 11,5,3,and 1! Will this little plan/hack work next year?? Who knows- but it worked this year and that’s good enough for me. Besides- at 830 in the morning, right after we sang happy birthday and gave her brother his present, she looks up and daddy and says

“Okay so now- we have Halloween, turkey day, Christmas, and then it’s MY Birthday! I’m going to be 6- I want a unicorn 🦄! ”

So this should be fun- I should mention that both of our birthdays come before her, but I can stay 30 for a few more years so it’s cool 😎 

Cheers 🍻 

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